Tuesday 9 May 2017
I asked him to marry me with a sweetie!
I have been with my husband for a long time, we got together on 28th December 1994, he rescued me from a wet and windy pier and a horrid creepy guy. He was my hero! OK scrub that, he still is my hero.
I've been feeling a bit nostalgic recently and was thinking back over our eventful relationship together. In 1999 my husband asked me to marry him when we were on holiday in Tenerife, I said yes, I had been waiting quite a while for that proposal. It was very romantic - late at night and we were sat at the waters edge looking at a beautiful electric storm out at sea. He asked me if I could see where the sea met the sky and I replied no. He told me he loved me that much, further than we could ever see. It may sound corny to you but that was possibly one of the most lovely, unprompted things he has ever said to me. He is not much of a talker you see.
Like any relationship ours was not perfect and there was stuff we needed to work on and work through. So our planned wedding for 2001 was called off in 2000 and we worked on our relationship and fell in love all over again. As our wedding and thus engagement had been called off he told me that he had done his part and whenever I was ready to commit again and get married I would need to do the asking. Ekk, I had never been one of those girls who wanted to do the proposing, but in September 2001 (when we should have been getting married) I did just that.
I thought long and hard about how I would propose to him; how would I make my proposal different to his, without upstaging it but still making it very special? I thought at the time I had a very unique idea but I now know that lots of people do the same.
I recall talking the day off work without my husband knowing and spending the whole day cleaning our flat and cooking a special dinner. I enjoyed primping and preening myself and getting ready with anticipation for my big night. I sent my hubby a text to let him know what time to come home and when he arrived at the outer door of our flat he was greeted with a surprise envelope on the front door, containing a single love heart sweet, I cannot recall what the caption was, but something along the lines of Be Mine. There was then two more doors that he had to pass through to get into our flat and you guessed it, they also had envelopes with a single sweet in too.
When he walked in the flat, there was I all ready and I handed him the last sweet, the one that said Marry Me. Luckily he said yes and in July we will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary.
Marriage is a very special relationship and it takes a lot of work to make it successful but boy it is worth it and if you are thinking about popping the question then I can certainly recommend using love heart sweets to do the job for you. It is nice and quirky.
Since then I've given my husband love heart sweets a few times in the hope he will remember that special night and we had them as favours at our wedding too. What I'm really hoping though, is that one day we will get to recreate our honeymoon in Barbados!