Tuesday, 23 April 2019

6 Signs Your Marriage May Need Help

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Although it's devastating to admit, sometimes a marriage doesn't always last. A divorce is one of the hardest things you may have to go through but for the sake of you and your family, it's important that you do what you feel is the right thing. If you're sitting there wondering if your marriage is coming to an end and you're just not sure, here are six things to look out for -

1.  You No Longer Have Anything in Common
If you now find that you no longer have anything in common and your personalities have changed since you first fell in love, it may be that you're no longer a perfect match like you used to be. Whilst having the same hobbies and interests isn't essential in a marriage, for some it can be the glue that holds them together. The best thing to do is sit down and discuss how you move forward from here. Have a think about how you can compromise and get involved in each other’s interests.

2.  You Feel as Though You Can Do No Right
 Another common reason for a lot of marriages coming to an end is that either one or both of you feel as though you can do no right. Sometimes a marriage can get to a point where neither of you is making the other happy and no matter what you do, you feel as though everything you're doing is making it worse. Whilst this is a horrible stage to get to, it's important you've recognising it. For a guide to identifying if something is fundamentally wrong in your marriage, you can visit this site here.

3.  You Argue Over the Same Subject Repeatedly
 If you're finding that your marriage has hit a point where you're just arguing with each other endlessly, it may be time to think about where you're heading. Whether you've fallen out of love with each other or you're going through your own personal struggles, sometimes being in a relationship can be damaging to your health. At the end of the day, you need to think about whether there are underlying problems when it comes to your arguments. For a guide to looking after your mental health in a relationship, you can visit this site here.

4.  You No Longer Have Feelings of Love
 One of the clearest signs that your marriage is coming to an end is that you have lost the feeling of love in your relationship. Whether it is one or both of you no longer having feelings of love for one another, it may be a sign that it's time to seek expert help, in the form of couples counselling, and failing that to call it a day. As unpleasant as it may be at the time, it might be better than spending years in a loveless marriage. For more information when it comes to separation and divorce, you can visit expert divorce solicitors here.

5.  You Find Yourselves Ignoring You Biggest Problems
If you know you have problems in your marriage but you're doing everything to ignore them, you’d be wise to think about why this is. At the end of the day, facing the problems you have in your marriage will lead to resolution one way or another. Nothing is better hidden away.

6.  Intimacy Is A Thing of The Past
Finally, if you are noticing that intimacy is a thing of the past, you’d be wise to address this issue and see if there are any underlying medical or emotional problems. Whilst it's not essential to be intimate in a marriage, it's definitely an important factor and a lack of intimacy could mean the start of your relationship drifting apart.

As a Christian I believe that marriage is for life and a relationship is worth fighting for, so before you give up on your marriage, please talk, seek help and try your hardest to save it. Of course, once you’ve tried all options and still find that things are not working then it might be that you wish to consider divorce. I wish you all the best if you are struggling right now, marriage definitely isn’t always easy!